About The Adult Chair
The Adult Chair® has helped me make sense of who I am! I loved learning about each of the chairs which include the child, the adolescent and the adult.
Knowing who is showing up as we move through our day is so, so helpful!!
Oh, is that my playful, passionate inner child, Shelley?
Or is that “Shirley,” my adolescent, as I like to call her?
Or is that conscious, compassionate, grounded adult Shelley?
The best part is that I have learned to slow down, to take that pause and reflect on how I show up!
This is my responsibility as a healthy adult, and I am grateful for all that I have learned and honored to be able to share this with you!
The Adult Chair® is a manual for your life. It’s a tool that helps you feel empowered, confident and equipped with a clear roadmap to your healthiest, most authentic self.
Through The Adult Chair®, you will understand how your life experiences have shaped you, give a voice to the different parts of who you are, gain greater self-awareness and respond to life in a healthy way.
THE CHILD CHAIR
Your inner child forms between ages zero and seven, and it is the foundation of your true feelings and needs.
The inner child is deeply vulnerable, which makes it the source of deep, connected relationships.
It is also where early wounding can occur, which shapes our view of the world as we grow up.
When seated in the Child Chair, we find creativity, passion, spontaneity, trust and intimacy.
THE ADOLESCENT CHAIR
In adolescence, you begin to develop your own identity and realize that you are separate and unique from the world around you.
As the ego forms, so does the desire to protect yourself, whether the daggers are real or imagined.
When seated in the Adolescent Chair, we become perfectionist, judgmental and controlling, and we develop a mask to hide our authentic selves from a world that seems cold and rejecting.
Most of us live from this place until we awake and decide we are ready to change.
THE ADULT CHAIR
The Adult Chair represents your highest self: living in the present moment, dealing with facts and truth over stories and assumptions and being able to set boundaries from a place of patience and compassion.
While seated in the Adult Chair, we can deeply connect with our inner child’s needs and feelings and objectively observe our adolescent’s behaviors.
It is here, and only here, that we can become aware of—and overcome—the emotional triggers and negative patterns that hold us back.
